Wednesday, 18 June 2014

Non-verbal message

Assalamualaikum and hello :D

Today I'll be posting about "NON-VERBAL MESSAGE". (As you can see the title above).

Yesterday, on 17th June 2014, our lecturer, Sir Anwari give a brief about Midterm date and so on.

This picture were taken in class, using one of my friend's phone cause my tab is useless. I don't know why it can't capture a perfect shot   (I'm disappointed though, but never mind. What is friend for if they can't help us when we need them). SO let's carry on, sir were giving out exam's format so we can get ready for exam. Actually, we were about to ask him about the tips and maybe, just maybe, he could let us know what topic will be in the questions. BUT I think he knows our tricks so he immediately said NO -- even when we convinced him many time.


So, when it comes about non-verbal message, what come through your mind about the definitions? What do you think that non-verbal meaning of? And what is the examples we can relate about?

Before our class start with exciting lectures, Sir were giving out introduction about this topic, he said that "Non-verbal messages is a communication without words and use some gestures like for example : body language. Slide after slide, I'm not sure which slides but one of it has a URL website  on it. He said he wants to test us how well we can read people -- mostly about their expressions. There were 20 questions in that survey.

(Let's change to another font and colours) I wanted to take a picture of our class activity, but I think Carson thought I was taking his picture, maybe.

This is the one I was talking about ^ :p

However at that time, we were discussing about the answer among us before we start giving out answer. Unfortunately, Sir Anwari keep listening to Leena and Mimo and guess what? Most of their answer is incorrect.I don't think most of it, maybe all of it. There were one question that sir asked us, what is the different between amuse and excitement? Well, I thought it was the same thing. I was searching in the nets (even though Sir Anwari already told us, but I couldn't hear any of his explanation because of the noises that my friends made). According to the results that I searched, it said :

  • Amuse: - To hold the attention of (someone) pleasantly. [As similar to: enjoyment]
  •              - Something that amuses. E.g : GAME
  • Enjoyment : An excited state/condition
After answering the survey, Sir gave a brief about non-verbal messages and the examples. He also mentioned the benefit of it, which is you will gain greater ability to send and receive non-verbal signal. For example a salesman, when he talks, he wasn't only gave information to customer, meanwhile, he also use gesture to attract people to buy their products.


Furthermore, Sir told us there were few functions in non-verbal communication. I will make in point-forms and summarize his words + textbook + my examples :D

(please scroll the pink box for more info)

1. Intergrating non-verbal & verbal
It happens when you use both verbal and non-verbal communications. For examples, when you raise your voice (non-verbal) to someone or you make an OK sign to indicate yes and shake your heads to indicate no.

2. Forming and managing impressions
There are 6 strategies that may used to present a false self and to deceive others.
For examples:
  • To be liked : you smile to someone or shake hands warmly.
  • To be believed : when you have confident to yourself.
  • To avoid failure : when you feeling sad or ashamed, you will cover your face with your hands.
  • To secure help : while indicating helplessness you might use open hand gesture (especially when you're sitting down and you asked someone who stand up to pull you up).
  • To hide faults : avoiding eye contact and communication (but both body languages and facial expression might give).
  • To be followed : you might wearing smart and formal attire during presentations where the people can see you.
  • To confirm self image and to communicate it to others : when you decorate your house or the way you dress. This will reflect to your personality.

.:Defining Relationship

 Much of your relationship life is lived nonverbally. For example you communicate affectionsupport, and love partly by nonverbal communication.
 You also use signals to communicate the nature of your relationship to another person. These signals are called "Tie Signs" because it indicates the ways in which your relationship is tied together.

.:Structuring Conversation

 You give and receive CUES that you are ready to speak, listen or comment when you are in a conversation.
 These turn taking cues may be verbal. For example, as when you say, "What do you think?". But most often they are NONVERBAL. For example, you nod your head signals that you are ready to give up your speaking turn.

.:Influencing and Deceiving

 Sometimes, nonverbal communication may be deceiving--lie, and can influence others into adopting your beliefs and ideas.
 One of the most common example of nonverbal deception is your eyes and facial expression. For example, eye winks.

                       Winking may be interpret as to affirm statement, but also can be misinterpreted as to cover a lie.

.:Express Emotion

 Nonverbal expression communicate a great part of your emotional experience. You may reveal your level of happiness, sadness or confusion largely through your facial expression. For example, when you receive a really good news regarding your academic achievement, you will express happiness through your expression.
 You may also reveal your feelings by postures. For example, just by your gesture, eye movement and even dilation of pupils can show whether you are tense or relax.

Did you guys know that we have several 
CHANNELS in communicate nonverbally?

There are 8 of it but Sir Anwari teach half of it these week and others on the next. But i'm just going to combine the 6A and 6B into one topic. 

The Channels of Nonverbal Communication

>Body Communication
There are FIVE categories of body movements.
(do scroll the pink box for more info)
  1. Emblems - Nonverbal behaviors that directly translate words or phrases. EX : Thumbs up

  2. Illustrators - Nonverbal behavior that accompany and literally "illustrate" verbal messages. EX : showing two fingers to inform that you will be back in two minutes

  3. Affect Display - Nonverbal movements that communicate emotional meaning. EX : Smiling
  4. Regulators - Nonverbal movement that coordinate, monitor, maintain or control the speaking of another individual.

  5. Adaptors - Nonverbal behaviors that are emitted without conscious awareness and that usually serve some kind of need. EX : Scratching and itch 

General body appearance influences how you communicate and how others communicate with you back.

Moving on to the next part,

>Facial Communication

 Facial movements may communicate a variety of emotions. The most frequently studied are happiness, surprise, fear, anger, sadness, disgust and contempt.
 Facial management techniques enable you to control the extent to which you reveal your own emotions.
For examples:

Intensifying : Exaggerating surprise when friends throw you a party.

Deintensifying: Covering up your joy over some good news when a friend has bad news to relate.

Neutralizing: Covering up sadness as not to depress other people.

Masking: Expressing happiness when you are actually disappointed.

Stimulating: Expressing emotions you don't really feel.

๑ Eye Communication

 Through eye contact, you may seek
  • Feedback
  • Signal others to speak
  • Indicate the nature of relationship
  • Compensate for increased physical distance
Eye Avoidance may help you avoid prying or may signal lack of interest.

>Space Communication

 Proxemics is the study of the communicative functions space and spatial relationships.
 There are FOUR major proxemics distance.
  1. Intimate Distance - (0 inches to 18 inches) ; for comforting and protecting. (Like when you with your closest friend).
  2. Personal - (18 inches to 4 feet) ; the protecting bubble most people keep around them & keeps you protected and untouched by others.
  3. Social - (4 feet to 12 feet) ; for conducting business or participate in social interaction.
  4. Public - (12 feet to 25 feet) ; keep space between strangers or others we view as potentially harmful. 

>Artifactual Communication

Artifactual communication is the messages that are human-made. The messages are made by color, clothing and body adornment, and decorations.
  • Color Communication - it may influence our psychology and perception behaviors

  • Clothing & Body Adornment - it shows by the way you dress, your hair style, etc

  • Space Decorations - how you decorate your room or home

๑ Touch Communication 
 The study of haptics indicates that touch may convey a variety of meanings.
There are FIVE major types of messages in touch communication.
  • Positive Feelings - feeling of appreciation, support, similarity, etc
  • Intention to Play - communicates your intention to play, either affectionately or aggressively
  • Control - control over behavior, attitudes or feelings to other people
  • Ritualistic - greetings like "Hello" or "Goodbye"

  • Task Related - associate with the performance of some function
Touch Avoidance is the desire  to avoid touching and being touched by others.

 This channel involves the vocal but nonverbal dimensions of speech. it includes rate, pitch, volume, rhythm and vocal quality as well as pauses and hesitations. EX : yawning.

๑ Silence
 It may communicate in a variety of meanings, from messages aimed at hurting another (silent treatment) to deep emotional responses.

 Time Communication
 The study of time communication (chronemics) explores the messages communicated by our treatment of time.

๑ Smell Communication

 Smell can communicate messages of attraction, taste, memory and identification. EX : you smell a dish or something from the kitchen that is very familiar. Your brain will try to find from your memory what is that smell.

To be honest, there's a lot of you need to read this (including myself)
Now, moving on to the another subtopic :-/

Which is:

Culture and Nonverbal Communication

..>Culture and Gesture
 Different cultures perceive nonverbal cues, especially hand gestures,differently from one another.
 E.g : for ok sign, there's a lot of meaning in another country. For brazil mean asshole and for japan means money.

..>Culture and Facial Expression
 Different culture seems to reflect different attitudes about what reactions are permissible in public rather than differences in the way humans show emotions.
 E.g : Broad smiles is inappropriate for Japan women, but women in U.S are more likely to smile openly.

..>Culture and Eye Communication
 Not surprisingly, eye messages are vary with both culture and gender.
 E.g : Americans consider direct eye contact an expression of honesty and forthrightness BUT Japan often view this as a lack of respect.

..>Culture and Colors
 RED : In western means DANGER but in eastern means good fortune.
 BLACK : In Thailand it signifies old age but in China, it's for funeral ceremony and sign of bad luck.
 Purple : In Latin America it signifies death, in Europe royalty.
 BLUE : In Iran blue signifies something negative.

Okay Okayyy!!
That's all from now :D